Dear Dave, My husband and I have a good relationship, but I am experiencing something unpleasant in our sex life. He doesn't want to lick me because he says he doesn't like it. What can I do to make him want to? Best regards, Kim. For an erotic massage, Dave is the place to be.

Dear Kim,

Thank you very much for sending us your question. I regularly have clients who are married or in committed relationships who don't get brushed at home or don't get brushed properly. Only a small percentage of women actually do something about it. In my opinion, it is very important that both parties enjoy sex, so I think it is very good that you talk about it!

Personally, I love kissing. It is a very intimate act that makes most women extremely aroused. As a man, I really enjoy it and that's why I like doing it. But there are also men who experience it differently, just as there are women who don't like blow jobs, for example. While I think you absolutely deserve to play with your tongue, I think you have to be careful. Just as I don't want women to do anything against their will, the same goes for men, of course.

My advice is to discuss with your husband why he does not like it. Perhaps a bed partner once told him that he is not good at it and that is why he became very insecure. Or he has difficulty with certain smells or tastes. Find out where his 'problem' with kissing comes from. This will make it easier for you to intervene together and you can put yourselves in his shoes better.

Also try to find ways together to remain sexually satisfied. The fact that he does not want certain things should not be at the expense of your pleasure. For example, have you ever thought about using sex toys? I have already written an article about this.

If you cannot agree and you want to be groped, you can meet a gigolo. But whether you (and your husband) are open to that, I don't know, of course.

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Dave is 33 years old and has been working as a professional escort for a large escort agency for 7 years. After working for years as a car mechanic, he now enjoys a life of relaxation, fun and pleasing women. In his blogs on Ladies Talk, he shares his work experiences.